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Accidental Parenting
Accidental Parenting

Episode 11 · 1 year ago

S01E10: Work Work vs. Housework

ABOUT THIS EPISODE

Balancing the workload between work-life and home-life can be difficult. Aubrey and Col discuss how they've coped with sharing responsibilities (sometimes unsuccessfully) and Col teaches us how to properly pronounce Costco. Also, Col finally wins a game!

I consider myself a dependable person,would you say I'm a dependable person, I would say yeah. I don't think I wouldhave married someone who is not considered dependable. That was a dealbreaker for you, a didn't, really thg yea. I don't know if you know this, butI was voted most reliable by my graduating classida. Yes, I was was thewor like something specific that happened that made you reliable to them?No, it was we. We only had a limited number of students and we went throughthe alphabet picking one letter for each word to describe a group of peopleand I think they were getting to the end was reliable and said: Oh yeah,let's pick Colmin O say well, it's very important to me to likebe on time and be dependable, and I drives I really get upset if I am notgeo as we all do right, we all want to make sure that we're followingthroughall like like a lot of people like really doesn't really bother themto be a little bit laid or I don't know I feel, like I've met people who aren'tthat bothered. I think you- and I are the same- that we don't like to letother people down yes, and maybe everyone feels that way, but I d I feellike I feel that way more than others right. So it was really troublesome tome this last week it was wer. We had a tough couple of weeks. I was unreliablea few times I was kind of letting some balls drop are we? Are we telling the story aboutthe kids in school yeah? I mean why not right, I'm an open book O, I ano shame.Well. This doesn't involve only our kids, it's other kil too I'll. Let youtell the story right, so we do a Carpool after school that we've starteddoing, which is wonderful and so every other week either. I pick up myneighbors kids and my kids, or she picks up her kids and my kids, and itwas my week last week I was supposed to pick up her kids and my kids afterschool, and I just tortally forgot no butthat's, not the whole story. Youforgot ha how many tims dimes at to He. First Time I I was doing a actually a podcast recording for adifferent POCKCASS that I worked for, and it went long and I just lost trackof time, and I didnt and as soon as I was done, saw that I had a couple oftixs from her and Shewas like. Oh, you were going to pick up the kids rightand then I'll just go ahead and do it realizing Howla we ee going to Ge Ol.Was it like forty five minutes a hour to know it? was that La long time wowthe kids didn't mind at all a few times since then they've been like? Can westay and play at the park longer because we're not doing like parentpick up they're just playing it ye until we get there at least, but I lovethe. I think there was one of the kids say:Can we stay and play the park like last that last time, when you let us stay atthe Parkin play a really long time, but it was really one of the two times thatie forgot to make them. Actually, I just forgot you at that time: D Yeah dothat again! Well, it was really tough, because when I got home an Aubre toldme about that. I was really embarrassed and I was upset because I felt like wehad ne, let our neighbors down and then it happened again. That's the thing itwas like. Okay, let's make sure this doesn't happen again and two days later,that one it was because of early release. I hate early release, yeah thewhole early release thing I I I get it right in our district. They do earlyrelease every Wednesday yeah Wednesday. They hat one one hour early, but theythey have two different schedules for early releas. They have an earlyrelease schedule. They also have an early dismissal schedule which isdifferent yeah, and I don't know what the difference is. It's just adifferent every Wednesday they get out one hour early and I just forgot if aguy was working and I forgot that it was early release, so I was planning onpicking the kids up at the regular time when they get out of school and an hourbefore that time. I'm on my way home from work- and I see my kids ar at thedoor like at the ring doorbel motion- I'm like Oh no wellyou've, you've had alot on your mind. Lately she mentioned this other podcast that she's recording,so I alrays picked up a couple of part...

...time jobs in the last month, or so I have my full time job where I'mcommuting into an office and right now, I'm not currently working from home,and she has historically been the one who's been at home, been able to pickup the kids being able to start dinner. Do smelaundry do some other things likethat to to you know, make sure everything is going smooth in thehousehold and the last couple of weeks since are has done. You know picked uphow many jobs are you working now I have like four jobs now. Well, I don'tTha. One is a hobby, though this one doesn't count, because I don't tellpeople, I have two jobs. I just have my one job and then I have the podcast.The accidental paellity count VIP kid catranscription and then the non proyou still do, the transcriptions you better not be doing the transgrir. Ihaven't been doing transcript. I ut S, O I employed by them. I, like all theseballs, are in the Air d like were ing like drop the transcription. You gotand I don't Houe. This is a hobby rostn. Let's talk about the lure of thistranscription job, you know you read a lot it online and tell tell us whatwhat were you transcribing like the news? You know you, it was captioning,it was captioning new and M. Yeah Show T v shows and it's like you can maketwenty dollars an hour and all this different stuff and pajamas at home.Yeah great that's Nice, while the kids are in school, but yeah turns out tonot be that much it' always turns out to not be that much because, no matterhow fast you type you still have to like do the whole thing again like timeit with the r anyway it just wasn't: cost effect saw a rough couple of weeks.We were skipping on some responsibilities that we had committedto. There was also the dinner incident. Well, so I this is, and I don't bringthis one up to embarrass you, it's more embarrassing for me because of theoutcome of the story. Yeah, maybe rea had youare no mintleness Yealy UNDERSO,okay, so I was, I had chopped up some Brussel sprouts and was roasting themand as the good mom that I am making dinner and had those going and then butyo had somewhere to be that night yeah I had. I had to work that night huh andI had I had like bought salmon that I was going to cook, but I hadn't quitestarted it. Yet col gets home from work and I was exhausted. It had been areally long day at lots of meetings back to back meetings and I was justexhausted. I got home excited to eat some dinner with my family and and Iwas like Ooh, you need to start the Salmon Brussels Rot. Oh No, whathappened was. I was like the Brusselsprats were almost done and theywent and checked him and somehow I had turned off the oven, yeah and theyhadn't cooked it all so e Oivera, russells Bras and nothingelse is done for dinner. So and I'm like, I got to go by it's yeah, an oven,full of rob, rousels whereuts, nothing cooked for dinner, and she says allright C Fii Cooke the salmon feed all this to the kids and I'm thinking Idon't want to do dinner. I don't want to make dinner clean up dinner and andlike feed all the kids in susommize, Ilevr, so exhausted with my day at work.I was just done and I was like no I'm not going to I'm I'm not looking dinner,I'm going to take all the kids and we're going to go out to eat. So Iwaited for e, the Brussel's breast to finish cooking, put hem in a littletepperware. It's not. We always call it tepperware, but it's not reallytouperware. It's its. That's like a brand yeah should o CI mean unless aless containers andlanless unless tepperaary is going to give us someNSENT AD adverise. Does that just that company Venou? I don't think I've eversa Teeso ewerware that says Tupperwaranican I pink Tupwar used tobe like it was the Avon of its day for Plastic sealable Leo, but have you everactually seen tepperar that says tepperware on e leting sure your momhas navy, maybe I'm sure of it, I'm not that observant! Okay, I wouldn't havenoticed right. Tepperware, overwear, dotcom food storagecontainers, a maybe we do have. No ours is not upperware, our o o back Ofpera,but they might sell it in stores. No, I I think it used to be where you goaround and Sell Tho all your neighbors and friends. Tepperware, Oh yeah, okay,and it was you know the temperwhare would burp when you open it. Yes,anyway, I put the Brussel sprouts...

...inside our sealable plastic containersthat we purchased not from tepperware, and I get all the kids ready get theirshoes on and we go to get in my car to go. Get Dinner, Othin we'll get dinr. UNo. This is where it gets a little bit tricky and I have to admit somethingabout the car situat Ou. Well, I I I thought you was going to admit the factthat you didn't take it back it out when we left normally WERLA TESSLA ishome. Whoever drives takes Atefsla we're going inception, one level Yo,we're left three stories in okay, just hang Witho when I go to leave nd, I'mlike Keby Cook the Salmon and finished Ina Fon, and I was like I'm taking theTESSLA and Youere Lik, I'm like I. I said that that MME feel a littl Nprovl. That makes me uncomfortable S, know to my credit. It did make me feeluncomfortable because of historic things that have happened with his test:lungs, hisleric, an historic event. andthat happened in the last couple ofweeks. Aubry went to. There was a day that Obbee did not forget to pick upthe K. I was there on early actuall. She I was there too early and she wentto go in the parking lot and another vehicle backed into the TESSLA, so ithad a big Ding in the door and I was very sensitive about it. You know it's it's none of my babies, it's one of mychildren and it had this big ugly Ding. We had just gotn it back from the shopand it had had been repaired and now Al Rwante to take it out, and I wassiddanly like someone punching on your kid Si. No, I just wanted. I wantedthat test, letto reach out and punch the other car back. I really did so. Itold Abra like that, makes me feel uncomfortable. She was mad when sheleft, I was stilladding, it was. Was I washittingever? There has never been anissue before where it was like. This is my car. This is your car. You can'tdrive that Gard now so here I am with four kids trying to figure out where totake them to dinner, and I've got the testel sitting in the car. So all fourseats are taken yeah in the Garuge. Normally I would have taken obrise theother car and we would have fit all the kids fine, but the reason why this wasan issue. Another story is the older girls like to fight over the front seat,a Hon Theylik to sit in the front seat and they also like to fight over the frontseat and the they. We figured out this rotating processand I thought that was working. Fine, but now it seems like every single timethey go to get in the car they're fighting about the froncy. So Iinstituted the policy. If ever you fight about it, no one sits in thefront. No one SI werever in my car because there's enough ats in the back,it's perfect Entili Har. Last week, when we go out to go, I think theywanted to go to chickfillet. So that's where we were going to go and the girlswere fighting over the front seat, so I said all right: everyone in the backseat, four kids, in a three seat, doesn't my back seat doesn't work sothey're like it's squished, it hurt a I'm like al. I don't have feel and I his isn't safe, Dad solike all right ifwe can't fit in the back seat, which I knew they wouldn't and I didn't goanywhere. I was still in the grage. I said I have everyone out, I'm going togo, get food and I'm going to bring it back, so they were crying. They weresad. They were upset that they didn't go to Checku filet they get to actuall.They l they love to actually go to a restaurant yeah. Well, they like toplay place at Triplle. It's a big inchickfilletis amazing. So I went out and I cond I'm raisingcanes, which is not chicke. Filet is still very good.Some of that BAA ECAUSE yolike didn't want to go where they had requested togo. 'CAUSE AI, like Wi a mile and a half closer okay. It's a mile and ahalf and like four stoplights closer to go to raising cans, er that'sa, so I brbackraising canes, and that's that's why the countertop was so greasy thenext morning. Did you notice that yeah? I was like every time. Every time we weeat, raising canes at home. It's like...

...someone, sprays, a full can of PAMcooking spray on the corthis. You know it's not an ad, because we wouldn't beable to Saye negative things about how greace it was, and I non no. I I feelbad though guess I I know some people who work at ch raising canes in thertheir corporate headquarters, an in I believe, they're in Dallas and I'vebeen to their Corpo, had really cool company really awesome food, that'sdelicious, but every time I eat at my house, I've get like this layer of filmof Har gluds. If they don't want something they take it off their plateand put it on the counter. Kidsothe sow the bottom line. Is it used to workpretty smoothly when I was home, and even though I was busy with the twins,I had some downtime. I had time to clean and cook and do all of thesethings I needed to do, and I didn't have that much on my schedule to keeptrack up. So I wasn't so I was. I was keeping track of stuff sure and now I'mbusier and it's much harder to keep track of the yeah, and there are somethings that I've tried to do to kind of help. To pick up. This sounds bad, butpick up the slack, but you know there have been some things when aubry wasstaying at home. It was easier to to figure out who was doing the laundryright. She was home. She had the ability she had time, so she would dothe one F it. While I watched Netplex, Ike Haven Cave t you ay the last Da, Io Rie. So then she starts working a few part time jobswhich is the equivalent of Aetina job and hours. I can still yeah when the kidsgo to school and I can be here when they get home if I remember to pickthem up, but now it's like who, who does the laundry right? We're L, not it Ionow, we're kind of going back andforth and figuring out that balance what I've started doing is late atnight. I guess after the kids are all in bed I'll go and I'll just clean thehouse, dyou notice, O that the other night I was like half asleep, and Inoticed you were cleaning and I thought I should get up and go help him andthen I didn't Welle was Kindo. Wi, don't blame you! That's totally finethat you didn't. There are actually three benefits to me. Cleaning a houseat night came one. The kids are in bed and they know that I'm cleaning thehouse. They don't want to clean the house, so th y they're staying EADright. That's a big one! Another benefit on me, cleaning the house lateat night, and this one is kind of obvious right, but it's just a cleanhouse when you wake up in the morning. That's always good. A cleanhouse isvery important to you. I mind a little clutter. It really bothers. My kids askme every year what I want for Christmas and my answers the same until the day Idie. What do I want for Christmas, a clean quiet house and they're like dad?No for real. What do you want to like know? Really you don't understand. I Aclean quiet house is my love language, Olove language, so the third benefit ofcleaning the house at night after the kids have gone to bed. Is it totallywears me out so by the time I'm done. I go to bed and I fall right to sleepwhen, when win situation right there, it's kind of amazing well, so now thatwe don't have time to clean as much ther, there are solutions right. Wesaid: okay, if we're both working full time. We can take some of that extra incomeand hire a cleaning service which has been h immensely helpful. It's beengreat, but it is only every couple of weeks and it's awesome, I'm not GOINGTOdiscreditthey're awesome, they come and they deep clean to a level that I thinkwe only did every three or four months sure, and they do it all in one settingin a couple of hours, it's Fantas. The problem is by the time you get home,you wouldn't even know they had been well. No, I notice here'shere's why Idon't notice the the cleaning women that we have. They are so fantastic.They take the rolls of toilet paper and you know the excess of the role that'scoming off. threoll. They turn it into a little rose little little orgamy. Youknow toilet paper rows. They do something fancy with the paper towelstoo, and I love coming home from working like seeing the little rosesand the other day. There were no roses...

...and I was a little bit disappointed andlike Hey, what happened? Did the cleaning people even come today? Idon't see roses and we 're, like oh we'd, riped them all off and term away.We use those bathrooms. No T turns out. Thad turns out. Georgia had to theroses. She's like someone needs to stop wasting toilet paper. This is not Oky,yeah Sheso. She goes and finds the roses and she intentionally throws themway cause. She knows that she's not supposed to be wasting to the paper andfun s. She considerd considerers it a waste but TAT's. True you still have toI mean we still have to keep it picked up. ECAUSE, our kids, don't pick upafter themselves. That's the problem now that we have this cleaning serviceit because I can see how clean it can be. I'm even going more to the extreme tomake sure that our house is picked up and that I seen ut. I can bev what thiscan be all the time and I miss Tis what I I going clean, Oto, the extreme, butit's been nice for me to you, know clean up the House after you've gone tobed and after the kids are in bed, because I feel like I'm helping tocontribute around the house. Oh it feels like a miracle when I wake up andit's like. If I went to bed, it was kind of messy and I wake up and it'sclean yeah. My Love Language is definitely acts of service like I'venever loved you more than that. Once when you cleaned the fridge out, do youEMEBER W? Well, I just did it again a couple of weeks ago ye this is wha. I'm talking about Oh yeah, I've done the ASI. I've done it a few times it, and Iknow this right. I know that Actsof Service, that's your lovelanguage, particularly cleaning the fridge. I know that about cleaning thefridge there, something I love me so Muso, but it's it's surprising that Idon't do it more often, because I know that about you and I also love having aclean fridge. So I remember as a kid you watch like T v shows and there'slike someone really cool and hip, and they go into this really sleek modernkitchen and they open up their fridge and it's like so sexy clean, riotlatisuper clear super, clear glass shelves and, like Mnot, a ton of food, it'skind of awesome to see like a really nice clean fridge. And yes, so when youclean out the fridge you like throw everything away. 'cause, you don'treally! You know like empty, I'm realizing that maybe one of my lifeaspirations is to be one of those cool people like the people. I always saw onT v with really clean, fridgeas, slean, empty fridge and th. The cameras comingfrom deep inside the fridge looking out and like two topper war container, noteven tempe original containers, everything's Fullyo, there's nothinghalf gone right in a clean fridge come on. I did when I cleaned out the fridgethis last time. I think there were like three bottles of barbecue sauce. Definitely two bottles of Tou, probablywel. I mean I'm a fan of this also, so that doesn't surprise me, but thathappens more more contiments than you need always get Ri d of All that getrid of the extra yeah. But it's I've been able to keep our fridge cleanerlately because we don't have time to grocery shop. So it's there's kind ofin win there too. The fridge stays clean and it's not cletter to full offood, because we just don't have time to shop. A and C there are some thingsthat that we've done with Um time, saving and meal prepping that Ithink Orar quite relevant and would help pera ut IRST. When we tried washello fresh. We ordered a few dinners from Hell ofresh and it was amazing, itall came and Ingr the instructions are really clear and it was easy for Adtyto cook it which and she loved and she loved it yeah. It was really great. Shewould get all the ingredent out. She would cook the entire meal she feltreally proud of being able to. It was awesome, not great, but it's a wayoverlis, it's quite a bit more than it would cost me to buy the stuff andnever, if I hade the tiht h. So then we looked into some other options. I waslooking into dinnerly recently. The company dinnerly delivers likepreprepared meals, where it's almost like ordering takeout it's homeprepared, but it's supposed to be fresher and better. A friends Mo anapisfriend's momas telling me BYUT IM AC to...

...try that one, but it's also a littlepricy. Well Th. If the food is already if it's premade yeah, it's going to beseems like it's going to be price, ewell and then hello fresh. I ended upcanceling because some of the produce was wrotten and I tried to figure outwhat their solution was there and theyw're like. Oh, we can give you acredit for your fifth order, but you have to order more Soer more to get nupspead it and that was lame yeah. So then I tried citrispere, which I loved.I went with a good friend and the way it works is they have everything themeat is all prepared for you. They put the bag the freezer bag in front of you,and you chop up some vegetables and put in like salt and pepper ands me n. Thenthey come around and put in all the Um seasonings for their recipes and youleave with twenty freezer meals in a cooler that you're supposed to actuallyforgot the cooler I called Col and I'm like: U Need to bring IC. This is afunny story too she's like Hey. Can You bring me the good cooler that good NiceCooler? We have I'm like yeah sure, and we have one of those like really nicecoolers, that is superheavy and it's supposed to keep ice frozen for threeweeks or whatever I thought it had wheels? No, so I I haul this I've gotthe twins with me. I'm hauling this big cooler. It doesn't it's too big to fitinside a shoppingaae. Doesn't so I'm like maneuvering, I I get inside andshe's like okay, I'm going to need you to help me to get this home too 'cause.I thought wheel, like I'm nocking about the WHEL T S, I'M NOT GONG AO livt!This ti! No! In fact, the first thing you said is: Oh. I, though I thoughtyou were bringing the one with wheels. I said, O you asked for the good cooler.This is that that's true I understad and I didt need one that big, but itjust I was like I've. Never me O, lift us so note to all those who areconsidering citruspaer. You do need to take a cooler with you, but I'm gladyou brought the twins 'cause. That was so funny. They showed up with you andthe cooler and they were like mom you're on master shaff. Your lookinshow Eer Soerly, my 'cause I had it was like a bunch of women and we all hadmatching aprons and we were travel ind. It looked like a cookings out of them,also hilarious, that our five year old twins know what masterchef and watchmastercheft unior. My kids love it there's the one that you'd always watchwith them when I was working from home. What's the way red, a great greatBritish baking cop, realt Baklan, so yeah and you'd sit down to eat lunch andthey'd like plop down in front of the T V with their lunch and watch the wholething y a every now and then then ask for a different show and I'm like no.If we're going to watch any screen, it's this! That's like okay, this work,what it's screen so they're not going to complaine too much and then a coupleof nights. Later we ate the first citrus par meal and it was delicioureally good, orange pork. You just throw it in the instant pot. Forty fiveminutes later, it's done, you cant, do it in the Crock pot earlier in the day,but I I a speaking of the instant pie. I saw MEM earlier this week on theInternet, something about saying Oh yeah, that instant pot that I got forChristmas last year, the year before, as just collecting dust, I don't knowhow to use it an I thought. How do people not know still they? They Te'lie without hat people own the inscant pot, and they still don't know or theydon't use it right, they're so fast, so easy to use. I've always been a fan ofthe instapot for a few years now, and I think we use it at least the lastNighta refray beans at it and any time. If I only have forty five minutes, it'sso fast it to the pressure cooks, your meat or whatever you're doing, and it'swonderful. So now we've got these citris parameals that can be cooked oror PR their premade can be thrown together in the instant PA. Quite a bitof Em, less expensive yeah twenty of tem twenty on was like two hundreddollars so liketen dollars. We do like every init Feanli of six. We do everyother night that lasts like a month and a half Yait's kind of amazing and itforced me to clean out the freezer. I finally got to throw away all those oldpackages of hot dog and hamburger buns that you insist on freezing when we buythe book selection of hot dog. HAMBERGOBBLE S will go to cook likehotdogs and we're at COSCO and like they're, only two dollars for likeforty eight of em, so you bi ordy,...

...eight of em, eight mines, eight, weusually cor because the kids don't even meet 'em a D, ethe, ASE, the rest or,and then I'll always the next time. I go to use them I'll check those andthey'r e the freezer bird ever horse. They are I'll, forget there even and itwas like two dollars so just just just throwi'm, not even going to freeze thatSu anytime. We have left over something Bun bread, I just throwng it away. IDont Lo wasteful though R I just the better solution, stop buying hotdugBuns Alakaora, every other grocery store sells that trip to go to thegrocery store on the way and go to the grocery stit on the way I just seem tomake more than one trip or just get raising kats every night h, yeah, yeah,N Woula, Lke, eight inches of greace on our countertop 'cause, eight inches onMawais. So when parents are both working whenthey're busy really important to have a network of either friends or family,who can help out like, even though o Laer, who goes and picks up the kidsyeah et well, an you worked out that carpulling arrangement 'cause, I HAV Alitcurent apology gift. I took her a present eligially list, a bunch ofcandy like it was acl. It was just like good candy or Halad like chocolatecovered cinnamon bears. Oh that's right! Ta She had choncolally covered CinnemonHor. She loved them, whocthat's, always exciting. When people discoverchocolate covered cinnamon varse for the first time, Goo kind of amazing weshould we should go shcave me she was very sweet about it. She was like youdidn't need to do this. It's fine, but I that's part of that is because we haveawesome neighbors, that's true. She's amazing shot out to all of ourneighbors, who may or may not listen to our podcast but they're fantastic, andwe do neighborhood parties and COLDASACparties and Game Knights and- and they are a really good network for us and asall reorable superbusy, they they have helped us out. So I I did some researchthis weekend. Preparation for this episode and I found a a survey that was completed on Pew PewResearch. This is probably two thousand and fifteen when they took place, and Ithought it was interesting because it was tracking the number of two parenthouseholds in the United States, so both mom and dad working either fulltime part time whatever it is, and I it gave us some trends between nineteen,seventy and two thousand and fifteen about what those trends were. Lookingat like about having parents working and in nineteen seventy thirty, onepercent of households had both a mom and ad working fulltime in two thousandand fifteen. That number jumped from thirty one percent up to forty sixpercent working part time in nineteen. Seventyseventeen percent had a mom working part time and a dad working full time,interestingly enough same in in two thousand and fifteen, that's seventeenpercent and then the big one mom not employedto as well as dad fulltime employed, O N Nineteen. Seventy ten fifteen fortysix percent of households had mom not employed dat employed full time and intwo thousand and fifteen I was down to twenty six. So the trend is that moreand more women are out there working either parttime or full time, and families and parents are justgetting busier and busier. Well- and this is tricky t ike, interject- reallyquick, because this is totally going to be different for every family, everygatuation and every personality, because I have you know good friendsand family who really you know, are able to stay home and value that nd andthen they are able to volunteer in the school and they are able to befulfilled with these other things they do and with their ki and for me, assoon as the kids as soon as the twins were in kindergarten, I immediately waslike so excited to get back to work. I I knew that. I I always knew that Iwould work I kind of tried. I was writing a book for a while and doing it,and I was like no. I want to work. I want to be yeah part of this. You knowwork community and and part of...

...something bigger outside of the home,and that's not for everyone. Some, you know, but something that I wanted. Sothere are different things that we can do as working parents to make sure thatwe have a balance that we have things figured out between that work, life andthat homelife to make sure that we aren't dropping the ball and thateverything is getting taken care of. So one thing that I do and I do this withwork before I leave my office at the end of the day. I always look at mycalendar for the next day and it's just a fresh reminder of all right: here's aBC what I have to do first thing in the morning what I have to do in theafternoon- and it helps me prup mentally, to know what's coming up andI don't have to worry it about. Typically, don't have to worry aboutthat at all. When I get home, I can leave it at work, but I just kind ofknow it's in the back of my mind that all right, I have to get to work bythis time, because I have this meeting or I have to prep for this appointment,and it is a little more complicated for me because mine are flexible, and so Ican get my work done when I can so I don't have to do it when the kids arehome. If they, you know, I want to get them off to school and when they gethome I want to do it, but I have to find other times in the day. SometimesI don't have the time during while they're in school, and so I have to bea little more creative about finding the time to do that, so I can't justshut it off once time. No, that makes sense, but I think, there's stillopportunities to create like a a checklest or like here's. What I needto do today, here's what I need to do tomorrow. You know prioritize that lestpush things off to the next day, because you're saying Oh yeah, I've gota lot to do. It's all flexible, like yeah things are gin, continue to dropand theless. You have a prioritized list of things that you have toaccomplish and it might not be tied to specific hours of the day, but I thinkyou can you can kind of make that work. If you have that list an in prioritisethings yeah another another tip that we found wasplanning meals ahead of time, that citrus pairs that wuld no citrus pairgreat opportunity there. I loved that you were able to go out it as w on aWednesday night, go out with a bunch of other. You know people andkind of have this social yeah experience making all these dinners'cause. Most of the time when one of us is making dinner at home, it's likeokay, one parent go in an Tan. All the Kids Oi want to win homewor Y H, yeah.I want to make dinner in Siman, we distracted, so it was kind of a funfsocial outlet really well yeah, and it was fast. It was like an hour and ahalf. I was surprised at how EST done twenty meals, so at explained thatagain they did the all the fresh ingredients. Yes, I have the meat allpreped already ri mean prrept a a Likeno. No, but I mean Ra, but it'slike fat is taken off and it's tropped into like Ke, the portions or whateverYohave wurtioned out and depending on. If you bought like for a big family ora regular po or whatever they, they put it in front of you, the two and you'redoing too what if you've ordered to anyway, and so then, but you'rechopping, the vegetables they've have onion dhopped, but everything else. Ifthere's carrots or whatever, then you chop that up and put it in yours andthey come around and put in if there's soy, sauce or orange juice or chili orwhatever, and they might come around and say M, you know mild medium hut andso that they know how much of certain things to put in Raka so they'reputting in all the stuff, that's their proprietary, like theyr recipes, Um andyou're you're putting in salt it's very clear on the Front Wi. You know howmuch salt and pepper you put in how much onion you put in and then t s, andthen they say this one's done and you steal it up and stick it in yourfreezer. Okay, that's Yo! Now you're cooler, Nti, yeah, Yeah Brat! Reallyit's a very good business model like very easy, very affordable. I rite another cept for helping parentsbalance that work life load Um. I I found some things that said, you know,use some automated systems on the Internet right so shot for groceriesonline and we've never done that. We've got some neighbors who do that and theytold us that they spend less money because they only buy what they needlike half the time I go to the grocery store. Half of my cart is oh well yeah.I need another bottle of olive stuffd with Halapanos right, like I yeah thatsounds good, so you're buying all this...

...stuff that you don't need that half thetime goes to Wayan every time I'm at Walmart, I see all of the crew shoppingfor peope like Lonther online and I'm like Jeez didn't I do that it'sactually a walmart, because I hate going to walk and then you have to goand Tak dont as Yo Goini'll. Just just have them take care of it. So that'sone piece using the Internet, another thing which may seem automatic for us and our generation,but using automated bills and direct payment yeah. We do that for almosteverything. It's everything I don't remember he last time I've had to wridea checker cause that would guarantee those would fall through the cracks. Ifwe didn't set up those automated payments- and we still go on O, goonline and check our bank accounts and make sure that everything is trackingand trending there's nothing. We have to do it's all ooy yea, h, the lastpiece and- and I've got a couple of here on this list, but the last piecethat I really want to hit on is here. It is giving up on the need to beperfect right. That's going to be tough for you! There I mean it's not going tobe a little clatter. You have to be okayyou're like no. No, like giving upon perfect to me doesn't mean that I can allow cletter you jus like wont. No,I can't say that. Okay, that there're exeiy a couple of toys on the ground,but I will say that we can give up on being perfect compared to everyone else.Right we talk not why you want to clean house is to have anything to withanyone. I know, but I'm just saying for any of our listeners out there, whomaybe you feel like they have to cat, keep up with everyone else and and haveoterfect life right. Who cares what an interests in socialmedia says like you?Do you and figure stuff out on your own, and if that means you put the kids tobed and clean for an hour or two for personal gratification, then do itright an and for me, that's one of these other items that I skipped onthis list. Part of that balance is making sure that youare putting your needs in priority in making sure that you'remaking time for yourself and for me the goal or moving toward that cleanquiet house. That is a priority for me. I I know that I can rest easier. If Iyou know, work in that Jel and it's good for me because we're a goodbalance that way, because I could not care less, and I can't even imaginewhat my house would look like. I 'd probably look like my room when I was akid growing up. It t was a disaster and Olay that that was probably a good timeto apologize to your parents for Hell, Ary, I'm so sorry for how messy my roomalways was- and I was I was as a kid. I was pretty good about keeping my roomclean. I think Um. In fact my mom babysat she was watching. There was akid in our neighborhood whose mom had to work, and my mom would watch himevery now and then and he came into my bedroom once and my mom's Goin tochuckle at this when she hears this- and he referred to my room as themuseum room. That's funny is that fitting or a letos very thinning, yeah the museum, that's KINDOF. Like my es, I lookaround my office. It's Kindof like the museum room. It's everything has itsplace, Ni and clean everything. Yeah is it's clean tidy, organized a cleanquiet house from a very young age from a vary vangage, and I hope that youknow our kids don't take it to the extreme one way or the other 'cause.There's there's a chance that they're like yeah,my dad. No there's a chance, they won't there's a chance. They'll go theopposite, neraction and be like total hordors could be 'cause, that's whatthey do now. I feel, like our kids are hoardors and they like stuff theircloset, full of them like they're, hiding it from Yo. Today the twinsbuilt a fort in the room tethey're like dad we're building a fort, but we'renot going to tell you where it is. I somewhere yeah, I'm like. Oh, is itunder the bunk bed they're like yes, how Dati y know and that's or like theystash all the toys from the other room, and we actually had a a moment justtonight before we started recording this podcast where I walked upstairs,and I saw it was a bit messy and I'm...

...like all right. Everybody clean upupstairs and we all cleaned o ust an promise them. They could watch a moviesince there's no school tomorrow and you're, like just kidding, turn on Tetavitically priorities, let's clean up, and then they can watch the movie. Sonow we have a clean house and they get to watch their movie as long as theydon't make. Popcorn wear good because yeah they make a huge mess every timethey eat pupkerand, it's everywhere the next day, and I remember no Mor Haniwerlearning that is God my mom would buy. So it was before it was costico. Wementioned Costco a lot on his really should get a kickback speaking ofCostgo. Someone was trying to make fun of me the other night for how Iannounced the tea look. It is COSTC O Costco. It's very, veryclear in my mind how to pronounce the word. No one is going to agree with you onthat. OK, either way before it was Costco, it was price club. Do youremember Tae and price club almost wanted to say price plub, retThetea? I really wanted Thatty, so price club would sell these giant bagsof popcorn. Did you pransover my ose yeah, clear, ever yeah every now, andthen my parents would buy 'em and my parents would leave and the kids wewould just like DEVOWR and leave popcorn all over the place and my momwould come home and vacuum and it was a huge mass. I cud I'm glad that costcode does not sell popcorn, because our house would be a mess. It is true thatCosca without the tea is a different company. I fi out some tables at workand it was costo without a HOSCO, bran yeah, there's a big difference betweenCOSCO and Costico, all right, just one tea. So let's wrap this up with alittle game. You HAV A game, yes, but we need a third person for this game. Iam not looking for it's going to be goon. It's youre going to be money.You're, going to embarrass me in front of all of my friends, maybe he so! This is how it works. We play thison road trips. Sometimes I played this game in fifth grade and I love it. Soyou have a map of the United States and you have to know your states andcapitals and the way it works is one person says stateand and capital, andthe next person has to say a state in a capital that touches that that borders,that state in capital- and you can't repeat any so you can run each otherinto Canada or Mexico or the ocean. If you you know, if one's been said, thenyou're stuck and if you mess up a capital ir it's the wrong w. You knowthen you're out, that's good aright, so you can start wherever you want. Iwould like to Oh at first we're going to interest ADDI ADDI's, our thirdperson, checker ady she's, going Na. Tell us if we messup allright. Thank you for helping okay, so I am going to start with II wanted to say, Seattle, Washington,it's not see. Howte Wa got out before we EERGY earness, O Olympia, N,Washington, S, Ras wherea, don't know addy. If he's Rong. That is correct.All Right, I'm going to say Salem, Moregan, Boicy, Idaho, Helena Montana Cheyenne Wyoming Caspar, no Chaann,Wyoming Shya. Ho, okay, all right, UM, DENVER, Colorado. Okay, I'm going to gowith, I'm pretty sure. Oh, let's go with UmSanta Fe New Mexico, Phoenix Arizona, God you're going to be me here, say: City,USA, okay, Rino, Nevada. Yes, you had LE. Well, I think you weregoing to Wai Kno. I would have already tess Wat California Sao Calivor. Imessed up a son, ofour LANC city west, and it's because we were watching. Wewere watching Reno, nine one one, the other night. That's why I said: huringOu, that's a sunhow! You Got Lieutenant Dengell in your mind with Rino RinoEvada Cari city corladio. We've got for...

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